We decided to get together yesterday and have a "Girl Day" and her husband took my son and he and the boys went and did this amazing scavenger hunt in the woods using a compass and everything - totally cool. My son told me that he wished yesterday had never ended. LOL! [Hopefully I'll get pics of that to share too - my friend's husband took photos of their manly exploits ;) ].
Here at my house we had Girl Day. It was SO much fun!!!!
My friend started by teaching the girls how to crochet and knit - something I've always wanted them to learn but don't know how to do myself. They were so intent - the 9yo actually crocheted a little, and the 4yo really worked hard at knitting - my friend and I were amused by how intensely she was working on it in fact! It was neat to see how patient my friend was while she was teaching them too - you have to be a special person to attempt to teach a 4yo [and a 2yo!] to knit! LOL!
Even the 2yo gave it her best shot.
After we did the Girl Crafty Stuff, we moved on to painting our nails and getting hand massages. Everyone had pretty hands and toes by the time we were done!
My friend getting her nails painted - every girl deserves pretty hands!
Monkey4 was so still while I painted hers - its amazing how she can be still as stone when she wants to be, and then a whirling dervish when she is so inclined! And yes, she spent most of the day naked - we had the hardest time just getting her to put on at least a pull up when the boys came back! All my kids have gone through a "naked" stage when they were 2, but none of them so much as this girl! I sure hope it is a temporary phase LOL!
Here is Monkey1 with her display of "girly stuff" for our Girl Day!
Here is Monkey3 getting her nails painted, while the baby looks on from my back! [Monkey3 and Monkey4 decided for some reason they wanted "puppy dog noses and whiskers" on their faces today - so I obliged. No harm, no foul, right?!]
Here is Monkey1 getting her nails done.
Then the boys came back and we all had dinner at our house. Monkey1 made Stuffed Shells, Monkey3 made brownies, and I made some "regular" pasta for those who are purists and don't like stuffed shells. :) We also had some salad and grapes and cucumbers and carrots to go along with it, and some nice warm bread.
Monkey5 [aka "the screaming baby"!] actually decided she liked my friend and was a "nice" baby all night - let my friend and my friend's husband hold her, didn't cry all night... it was great! I hope it is the beginning of a trend!
It was really a great day/night. My friends are such amazing people, and I adore all their children. My kids and their kids get along so well - my children LOVE their boys! I enjoyed the time so much, and so did the kids.
The kids needed a great day yesterday, because today they were supposed to have visitation with their dad [every other Saturday] and he canceled again. First he called at 8am [he was supposed to be here at 9am] and said he "didn't know" if he'd make it because he's on call at work and keeps getting calls. Then he called at 8:45 and said he was getting a shower and then would be on his way. Then he called at 9:30 to say he had gotten another work call and was trying to do it. Then he called just before 11 to say he wasn't coming.
The kids are devastated. I wish he just wouldn't set up a visitation if he isn't going to make it. Don't tell the kids you are coming and then not show up. And I don't have any patience for the "I'm on call" excuse, because he has a laptop and he can answer support calls at my home just as easily as he can at HIS home - we do have internet access. *sigh* Even if he had just come for lunch and stayed 45 minutes at least the children would have felt like he cared about them. My oldest said this morning "Daddy thinks his work is a lot more important than we are." How do I even answer that?
Tomorrow my mom and dad are coming to babysit while I work, so THAT will be fun for the kids. Hopefully they'll feel loved to pieces after that visit! :)
3 comments:
Daddy thinks his work is a lot more important than we are.
*sigh* One of my kids said something very similar recently about their father. Anyone who thinks kids don't get it is just crazy. I'm so sorry for your kids.
But, I'm glad you had such a great day yesterday. Thank goodness for wonderful friends! And for devoted mothers.
Kelly,
I'm glad you and the girls had a nice day and that your son had some guy time. Male figures are important when you are a single parent.
It's hard when visitation is cancelled. Have you considered not telling the kids he's coming until he shows up? There's never an easy solution for someone who behaves that way.
I did Patience - I started not telling them till he showed up at our door. He got mad at me for that - that I didn't "trust" him [he's canceled 3 of his last 5 scheduled visits at the last possible moment]. So now he tells them himself so they can "look forward to it". :(
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