Reconciliation

Just to keep my life strange.....

Just when I'd gotten used to the single mom thing and had gotten into a "groove" with it [and it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be - though sometimes it was truly awful. LOL! Mostly it was pretty good.].

My husband wants to reconcile.

This is a story that is stranger than fiction, BUT when he was in the hospital in August they put him on a drug that totally changed his personality. He became evil [truly, I am SO not kidding - he was SO mean!]. Which is not at all like the man I knew and had been married to for 12 years [who was a really kind, sweet, loving person].

Well, he went off that drug 4 weeks ago, and it took 2 weeks to get it out of his system - then 2 weeks ago he kind of "woke up" as himself. And was devastated by what the evil bodysnatcher had done to his life. :(

He started hinting around that he wanted to try to make things right and I was totally like "Are you NUTS?! No way man.... I don't want to go through this again - EVER!"

Last week I was around him quite a bit because of the kids being sick and him actually wanting to help and be involved [also a radical change!] and I realized "Hey, wait a minute, he's back to his *normal* self - wow! We missed that guy!".

It really has been the strangest thing, and its been a hard decision to make, but I've decided to change the Divorce Agreement to a Separation Agreement and to work towards reconciliation. [The Separation Agreement guarantees me & the kids the same protection that the Divorce Agreement guaranteed as far as rights and financial stuff].

There are many requirements we are putting in place to keep the children safe and everything healthy. He is going to continue to live somewhere else for at least 6 months while we pursue both marriage counseling and family counseling with the children. He is going to seek out a better doctor who will do a better job managing his meds [his current doctor refused to believe me or him when we both told him that the drug had completely changed his personality and that his behavior was *bizarre* - which it was]. He is going to try to get stable and we are going to try to learn how to re-integrate him into the household while keeping everyone safe and healthy.

This is a lot to come back from. There is a lot of stuff that happened that I didn't even put in the blog, there has been a lot of damage and pain for certain.

But I think saving the marriage is the right thing to do in the long run. I think it will be best for the children long run [they are SO happy we aren't divorcing] and it will be best for my husband. I think it will even be best for me in the end.

I think this is what God is calling me to. The world needs people to witness to the fact that marriage vows are sacred and that marriage SHOULD actually be "till death do us part - in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad" [Let's pray we've had enough bad times for a while... aren't we due some good ones? LOL!]

Pray for us. :)